The translation of another Hadith:

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Women are like a rib….

Because they have been created from the crooked rib and are crooked. Do we not, in spite of the fact that our ribs are crooked, benefit from them? Are the husbands not benefitting from their wives in spite of the fact that they are temperamental? Although one’s ribs are crooked we carry on living with them. We never request to be admitted to a hospital to have them straightened. The Prophetic words are,

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“If you will try to straighten them you will break them.”

This mean, do not interfere with them too much, tolerate their temperament. If you will be harsh, matter will reach ahead and end up in a divorce. The poor children will swear and curse you, “what a tyrant of a father we have who has divorced our mother.” After separation, you too will think of her and cry. When the tale of your harshness will spread, no one else will give you their daughter, thinking you to be a merciless person who has divorced one wife and will do the same to their daughter. Therefore, have patience upon their bad temper, their nagging and mood swings and do not try to straighten them.

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In the commentary of this Hadith, Allama Qastalani says, Allah Ta’ala‘s beloved Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) advises men,

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There is the lesson to treat wives well

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2. And to be soft towards them

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3. And to have patience on their crookedness,

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4. Because their intellect is weak. If one has a weak child, one tolerates him to a great extent and warn others too, to excuse the child for its weakness, for natural weakness should readily be excused. So Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) has said, “women have a little less intelligence. They are Naaqisaatu-Aql” (not perfect intellectually), so tolerate their weak points, thinking them to be of weak intellect e.g. if you will bring five Rands (currency of South Africa) worth of medicine, she will say you have brought rubbish from somewhere. When a woman was asked if her husband brought clothes, shoes for her, she replied, “Yes, he brings some rags (cloths), pieces of lathe (shoes), and tins (dishes) sometimes.” So forgive them for such talks for they are weak.