She ponders as follows, “Had I been a man and he my wife I would have handled his case.” Together with this, let wives also realize the respect and honor due to their husbands as well. If at times they happen to over step the mark, bear in mind the honor due to them. Remember the position granted to them by Allah Ta’ala and in order to earn the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala forgive them. Consider service to them as one’s great good fortune. It appears in a Hadith, if a husband goes to sleep while displeased with his wife, none of her good actions will be accepted even though she spends the entire night knocking at Allah Ta’ala’s door with Tasbeehaat. Wives should also ponder and realize that the position granted to husbands is so high that, if permission was given for anyone to make sajdah or prostrate before a human, such permission would have been given to the wife in respect of her husband. Remember nonetheless that it is not permissible; therefore, permission for this act was not granted. It is only Allah Ta’ala who is worthy and deserving of being prostrated before. Therefore, it is not permissible for anyone beside Allah Ta’ala. In addition, its incumbent upon parents to teach their daughters that even though the husband becomes angry or becomes bitter towards them they should tolerate it for through him numerous gifts and bounties are also enjoyed. Husbands literally turn their blood to perspiration in earning a living to see to the wife’s needs and comfort, while wives stand before stoves making ‘Chapaati.” There is a relationship between ‘Chapat’ the sound of a light slap and ‘Chapaati’. While Chapaati is being made, the sound that is heard is ‘Chapat’. Thus, from”Chapat’ the word Chapaati is derived. Let me narrate an incident regarding ‘Chapat’. There was, in Delhi a poet by the name of Inshallah Khan. Inshallah once happened to be the guest of Nawaab or lord. At the time of partaking meals, Inshallah Khan was bare headed. Due to feeling ashamed he lowered his head and ate. The Nawaab Saheb with a sense of humor gave him a light slap on the head asking him as to why he was eating bare headed. While keeping his head lowered, he retorted, “Allah Ta’ala forgive my beloved father who always advised, do not eat bare headed, otherwise Shaytaan will slap you.” Nawaab Saheb was dumbfounded at his quick wittedness.